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A Critical Spirit

A Critical Spirit

Tim Hawkins, the comedian, makes the joke that, if you go to a church where others do not judge you, you’re really in a bar, not a church. So many women will not set foot in a church b/c they are sure that they will be judged (criticized). Some women are even called to ministry but would rather hide in the woods than take their place b/c of other women judging.

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Frankly, it is just a work of the flesh, a critical spirit. Trust me, I know. How many have criticized me just from my pic–I am really overweight at the moment. I think also women do judge b/c they haven’t realized that their criticisms of other women need to meet the cross.


Not too long ago I was standing in the lobby at church and a lady came to me and said hi and immediately looked at my kids and started evaluating them in their appearance and behavior. She made the conclusion at the end that I was an ‘OK’ mom. She shook my hand and walked away. I just wondered if she did that thinking I was judged by her.

You see, I usually don’t say very much. I often think that I am being judged b/c of my weight and appearance. So, perhaps she thought I was judging and decided to follow suit. Now, actually, I wasn’t thinking anything. However, many women THINK you are thinking something (?)–don’t try to figure it out.


A critical spirit can be an underlying current among people. It is a work of the flesh and the devil hooks up with it pretty readily. It can get darker and darker. I can see why people would shun it. It is a root in racism and its mother is pride.

The solution really is not complicated. It is called the cross. When we take it to the cross and ask God to cleanse it, according to 1 John 1:9, the Blood of Jesus will do what it was given to do. It is the power to remove it. (And clean up the mess it made)

1 John 1:9 (KJV)

If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness

Now you can take care of it in your own life. Just decide that you won’t sow it, nor will you reap it. You can determine to love in the face of it before you ‘face’ it. Confessing it as sin that you don’t want in your life is the first step. Now to ask God to help you to love in spite of it coming at you.


You distance yourself spiritually first; then, if needed, you separate physically. We can just decide we are not going to participate with that spirit. Don’t worry, God will take care of you and will give you relationships that are precious b/c He puts you with others who do not criticize.

You learn to choose your words.

You can go to church and enjoy it, even if you are a pastor’s wife or a pastor yourself. Cant worry what people think. Not your responsibility. When you see someone, try to think of something positive about them, even if you don’t like the way they dress, etc.


Chris: Here is something God is working on me for:

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;
I am determined to grow in the love of Jesus, to love like Jesus. No small task…
How do I treat people clearly doing wrong?
Well, I have to set clear boundaries to protect my family, and that may involve distancing me from certain people, for a time yet just because I’m not wise enough to help them, does not mean God has given up on them. He knows them, knows why they are the way they are, and He has infinite resources to help, so I pray:
For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.
Philippians 1:6 [Full Chapter]

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:
So, this is what I pray:
‘Father, help me to grow in Jesus love. For these people that are mistreating me, work in them, to will and to do of your good pleasure. I choose to believe that You who created this person in Your image, have begun a good work in them, and that You are holy, and faithful to hear and answer my prayer for them, to complete the good work you began in them, til the day of Jesus Christ. I ask this, knowing I am heard and answered, for I ask in Your name Lord Jesus, Amen’


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1 Corinthians 9:14 [On the same principle] the Lord directed that those who publish the good news (the Gospel) should live (get their maintenance) by the Gospel.

Paul goes on to say, that he did not use his position as a minister of the gospel to take up offerings, rather he worked, making tents, to support himself. You might notice here, that Paul was not married, nor did he have children. Family responsibilities take time, and just as you bust a move on your job to provide for your family, I work every bit as hard, doing this, faithful to the Lord in prayer and the ministry of His Word, to you.

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Matt 10: 41 He who receives and welcomes and accepts a prophet because he is a prophet shall receive a prophet’s reward, and he who receives and welcomes and accepts a righteous man because he is a righteous man shall receive a righteous man’s reward. 42 And whoever gives to one of these little ones [in rank or influence] even a cup of cold water because he is My disciple, surely I declare to you, he shall not lose his reward.

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Genesis 22:17 In blessing I will bless you and in multiplying I will multiply your descendants like the stars of the heavens and like the sand on the seashore. And your Seed (Heir) will possess the gate of His enemies

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